First of all, hugs. Because I'm a hugger and you could use a hug. I know loneliness after divorce is the worst feeling to sit with. Of course, the entire process of divorce is lonely. It often feels like single-handedly carrying all of the world's responsibilities with no one around to help. And the loneliness can lead to some pretty destructive choices...which I am NOT judging bc I did them too. They usually involve alcohol, maybe some recreational drugs, random sex, and spending money on things you do not need. But none of it works. Not for longer than a few hours. And then you crash. And feel like shit. And deeply alone.

The Story of Loneliness after Divorce

You Want to Be Wanted … Again

You know you’re not ready to date, but you want someone to want you. To hold your hand, take your call when you’re having a bad day, and to tell you how beautiful you look when you cry.

Buuuuuuut dating won’t work if you haven’t healed the wounds from...

Absolutely no one anticipates divorce when they get married, and it can leave your head spinning when it happens; just as your life, family, and career were taking off. When you take a step back to assess the damage after your divorce, you may find yourself thinking, “I’m divorced at 30, now what?!” I can tell you, you’re not the first to have that reaction, but it will get easier! Read below for advice on taking your next steps.

5 Must-Do’s When You Are Divorced at 30

Once your divorce is final, and the dust begins to settle, don’t feel pressure to move in any particular direction. Divorce is isolating and messy, and disquieting to your very soul. But, it happened, and you can’t ignore that it did.

The reason I say this is because these awful feelings you’re experiencing can, understandably, make you want to move on as quickly as possible. And in doing so, the choices you make may not be the best because they’re stemming...

The frequent lawyer calls and emails have gone silent. The depositions, appeals, and meditations have ended. Your divorce is final, and this chapter of your life has come to a close. Soooooooo…what now? How are you supposed to feel? What’s your next move? You made it through one hell of a divorce alive, so why (WHY?!?!) do you feel so shitty now? Read more if you ask yourself “How do I start my life over after divorce?

An unhealthy marriage is often the result of a million nuanced choices made over time, and divorce is one solution to that particular problem; it is not, however, a fix-all. You need to overhaul your thinking, my friend. Let’s get, the post-divorce you, ready to conquer the World again!

How Do I Start My Life Over After Divorce: Perspective, Trust, Intuition

1. Regain perspective

As personal as marriage and divorce are, feeling like divorce is something that happened TO you isn’t the kind of outlook that promotes healing;...

So you got divorced, and you are wondering how to heal from a divorce you didn't want. I know how bad it sucked. More than anything. Ever. If you're ready to start enjoying life again, read on to learn five things you can do to heal from this divorce.

You got the news. It’s Over …

I mean, "What The H*!!". You spent the majority of your adult life trying to make this marriage work. You put up with crap, but it was worth it to you. Having a family, a person, and a life together mattered… and now it seems like you aren't good enough for them?! Because they didn't love you, unconditionally. And you can't fix it because they aren't willing. You don't get a choice because they. Are. Done. And the icing on the cake, perhaps they've been seeing someone else. 

And you are heartbroken about it

• You can't seem to stop crying or feeling resentful.
• You feel completely out of control.
• Your life feels like you have no say in how it unfolds.

The...